Making sawdust

How do you unwind after a demanding day?

Pop and I looked at each other: sweaty, covered with sawdust, gnats in our eyes, pine needles dropping onto our workbench.

“Time?” I asked.

“Time,” he said. He went into the garage and re-emerged with two beers and two sand chairs.

Another afternoon of woodworking in the books.

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I enjoy woodworking; there’s something comfortably mindless about sanding stuff, using finer and finer grades, going from a rough-hewn plank to a gleaming surface ready for its first coat of stain. I’ve got my retro boom box CD player playing and as I sand, I listen to Glenn Frey sing about a girl in a flatbed Ford.

Pop taught me. It’s not something you can really learn by reading or by watching YouTube. I needed his hand on mine, showing me how much pressure to apply. How to set a precise angle on a saw and how tight to make the wingnut. How to delicately countersink trim screws in unobtrusive spots. After an afternoon of futzing around, we’d have a few cold ones in our K-mart sand chairs under the towering seagrape tree and rehash that day’s lesson.

It’s a fun hobby, but an exacting one…for me, anyway. I’m a perfectionist and if a joint I’ve cut on my cheapy Craftsman table saw comes out 1/16” off and I need to cheat with wood putty…which stains lighter than wood…it bugs me. It may not even show, but just knowing it’s there rankles me somehow.

But I do the best with what I’ve got. The garage is for the cars, and all my woodworking stuff is in boxes on shelves or wedged in here and there. Taking it all out, then cleaning it afterwards and putting it back is a hassle.

NC version of Bob Vila

A few months ago, I needed to make a difficult cut and a buddy who lives about a mile away told me to come over, he’d cut it for me. When he raised up his garage door, I was speechless.

Forget cars, his garage woodworking shop could be in a magazine. He had at least six or seven top-of-the-line shop tools, set up strategically, all connected to a central dust collection system. He even had a window air-conditioner; no beads of sweat dripping off his nose in August.

He turned on his 72” Delta table saw; it was easily a $4K piece of machinery and absolutely silent. He dialed in the required depths, not in crude 1/16ths of an inch, but hundredths of an inch. My piece of pine went through with the barest whisper. He held it up. “How’s that?” he asked. Yeah, that’ll do. Geez.

But—shop envy aside—I enjoy the challenge of making do with what I have because it keeps me connected to Pop. As I use a hand tool that we shared 20 years ago, the time drifts away and we’re again sitting in our sand chairs, BS’ing. I use his bureau to store stuff and when I open a drawer, the smell overwhelms me with memories.

Recently, I was building a printer cabinet and needed to make a tricky cut. I clamped everything, turned on my noisy saw and gingerly pushed it through. Amazingly, it was a perfect fit. I put it together a few times, pleased, then held it up towards the garage ceiling. “Whaddya think of that, Pop?” I asked.

What happened next was startling.

Instantly, I heard Pop’s voice. Attaboy, Dar! It was almost audible. I opened a bureau drawer and the familiar old smell pushed me over the edge. It was an otherworldly experience.

I believe the veil separating this world from the next thins sometimes to the point of being almost nonexistent. The Bible says we are being watched by a “great cloud of witnesses” (Heb 12:1) and I think God in his providence sometimes does things, allows things that we don’t fully understand. Because at that moment, Pop might as well have been standing next to me. Things blurred; Aww, Pop. I just stood there, lost in time for a moment, not wanting to break the spell.

Sue came out and instantly grasped the situation. She went to the little garage fridge, got out two beers, gave me one, then hugged me. “I know,” she said. “I miss him, too.”

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And while he’s been gone more than a decade now, the incredible events that we remembered and celebrated just this past Easter weekend are fresh in my mind.

It makes me happy to think he’s in the presence of a better carpenter than he or I will ever be. 😎

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  1. A fantastic piece, Darryl. My Dad was a self taught carpenter and machinist. He’s been gone just four years this coming June. I’ve had similar realistic experiences of him being with me in spirit.

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  2. that’s awesome Darryl.

    you know from my experience, the people that are apprenticed the way your Dad did for you are often more intuitive with the process versus people like myself that are an amalgamation of self-taught and information collating.

    there is a mysterious and wonderful quality in traditions passed down from father to son. the world needs that now more than ever. great post! Mike

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    1. Thanks, Mike, always appreciate your thoughts… Agree that it’s important and very cool to hand down these skills, and although I’ve got three girls, they all know their way around my workshop 😎😉

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    2. On the other hand, my friend, I received a most interesting and enlightening answer one evening, as I was bemoaning my own self taught status in the kingdoms of religion and spirituality.

      “If you follow someone through the forest,” said my companion, “when you get to the other edge you have learned very well the back of the person in front of you. If you stumble through it alone, tripping over every root and bumping your head on every low branch, when you get to the other edge ~ you know the forest.”

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      1. Ana, great quote! I can understand how struggling to learn, to master something on your own would def make you more of an expert, a master. Much of what my Dad taught me was just an excuse for hanging out together, drinking cheap beer, and BS’ing…with some woodworking thrown in 😉

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  3. Beautiful post! My tools are all Home Depot grade home owner things, but I do have a basement workshop so there’s no lugging stuff about. My Craftsman chop saw is exactly like yours. It sits on a portable stand with extensions so I can make short boards out of long ones.

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    1. Thanks, Robert! I’ve got those same extensions 😎 The roll-offs with the ball bearings really help when you’re working alone with a long rip cut. I wanna move next door to my Cadillac woodworking buddy 😂

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  4. I’ve got a lump in my throat, as my old Dad would say, “as big as a horse turd”! Dad comes to me nights, when I’m sleeping. I miss him as much as you can imagine. Watching you and your Dad working with wood as I read this essay just made my day! Thanks for sharing your memories!

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    1. Ol’ Big Jim…thanks for the kind words. I guess we should consider ourselves blessed that we had dads do worthy of admiration. Appreciate you reading and sharing … thanks 😎🙏

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  5. Another terrific and touching story, Darryl. Your dad is surely proud. I don’t think we realize how much we are molded–in countless ways–by our parents and others until we get a bit more mature. Or, to speak for myself, perhaps just older; not sure how mature I am. Have a great week!

    –Scott

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    1. Thanks, Scott. Really appreciate your comments… I know you’ve also lost your dad recently and how much you miss him. I’m sorry, brother, we just gotta keep pushing on and making them proud. 😎

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  6. “I believe the veil separating this world from the next thins sometimes to the point of being almost nonexistent.”

    I liked that line. The thought makes me feel closer to my dad.

    I also liked that Sue was Johnny on the spot with the cold one. She sounds like a keeper.

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    1. Oh dude, I am blessed beyond measure with her. Why she ever agreed to go out with me, let alone marry me and bear our kids, is a mystery unfathomable.

      Thanks so much for weighing in. I really look forward to your stuff, it always resonates. 😎

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    1. Thanks, Rojie! Seems like several people have experienced it. Guess we should count ourselves lucky that we had parents that were cool enough to miss. Thanks as always for reading and commenting 😎❤️

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  7. Your ability to share knowledge with clarity and confidence is truly inspiring. Keep pushing forward your words have the power to educate, motivate, and create lasting impact. Never underestimate the value of your voice; the world needs more of your insights!

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  8. Having your dad be a a part of helping you learn that craft is an absolute privilege. You will be able to pass that knowledge of your craft to the next generations! Beautiful story!

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    1. Thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it. And yes, it’s true, about passing it on… I have three daughters and they can do quite a bit. ❤️

      Thanks for reading and commenting! 😎

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    1. Thanks, Mary! It really is satisfying. It’s tricky sometimes bc things are flipped… like if a piece is supposed to fit up against another and it’s upside down, it’s a mirror image. Thankfully, there’s a Home Depot not too far away so I can always run and get a new board 😉

      Thanks for reading and commenting! 😎

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  9. Amazing, Darryl 😇 … if I heard my dad audibly, I’d probably jump right out of my skin at attention (lol)! Still, you have proven to be a divine conduit! Imagine the “talks” they are having watching / witnessing our shenanigans. Probably a lot of, “He didn’t get that from me” 😉 … or “I taught him well” ❤ ~ Happy Belated Easter !!! God Bless You !!! & Sue ❤ coming in for the win !!!!

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    1. SS, sorry about the delayed response! I took a few days off.

      Thanks for the kind/humorous comments. I often wonder if they’re watching and making snarky comments 😂 It was so special that day… and while we miss them I guess it was bc we loved them so much. I really miss the days of sitting under the seagrape tree with Pop and a few cold ones 🌳🍺 A belated Happy Easter to you as well, my awesome surfer sister 😎❤️🏄‍♀️

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  10. What a beautiful and touching piece Brother…. Thank you for sharing this. I felt every moment, from the sawdust to the silence that held your Pop’s voice.

    Powerful writing, full of heart. And yes… what a joy to know he’s with the Master Carpenter now. 🙏🛠️❤️

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    1. Willie, I’m so sorry for the delayed response. I got involved with some projects and we had company… Was off of WP for a few days.

      Thanks so much for the comment… I thought it would resonate with you. 😎🙏

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      1. No need to apologize Brother. Hope you are doing well and feeling the Lord’s Blessings all around you.

        I’ve been MIA from WordPress as well, finally able to jump on today here and there.

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    1. Thanks, pk. I’m glad you enjoyed it. I certainly learned a lot and had a good time with my dad in those days. Whenever I’m working on a piece, I usually think about him.

      Thanks for reading and commenting… Much appreciated.😎 oo

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