All night long, the rain pattered on the roof of our cabin in Black Mountain, NC. It was gentle and quieting and the seven other dads and our eight daughters dozed peacefully in their bunks. I checked my watch—2:30 am—and scrunched lower in my sleeping bag.
Pop had a favorite expression he used when he was particularly satisfied with life: “It ain’t bad livin’.” As I drifted back to sleep that night, wondering idly what three days of steady rain would have done to the river levels and our upcoming white-water rafting expedition, I heard Pop distinctly. “It ain’t bad livin’, Dar,” he said.
At that moment, I had to agree.

The Y-Guides program is a nation-wide program for dads and their sons and/or daughters. Based loosely on Native American culture, “tribes” of 6-10 dads and their kids are created.
The program has been around for decades; I was in it with my dad. There are solemn ceremonies where you pick your Native American name, earn feathers, bang the tribal drum. The program for 6-8 yos is relatively tame; the real fun begins once you graduate to the Trailblazers program.
So on this outing, me and the 15 other members of the Pouncing Puma tribe slept in blissful ignorance. In just a few hours, we were going white-water rafting on the French Broad river—the same one that became a torrent of biblical proportions recently during Hurricane Helene.
We ate breakfast, then boarded one of the buses that were carrying tribes several thousand feet higher to the entry point.

As the buses made hair-pin turns and the air brakes squealed in protest, a staff member of the YMCA stood up in front.
“OK, dads,” he said loudly. “We’re going to watch a short safety video. I need you to please watch it and pay attention.” He pointed to the ceiling of the bus where video screens were located by every other seat. The dads looked at each other with satisfaction as our girls snickered and talked about boys. This is gonna be great.
For the next 15 minutes, we learned about the many ways you could lose your life while whitewater rafting. Falling out of the raft and striking your head; drowning; and everybody’s favorite, foot entrapment, where your foot got lodged between underwater rocks, you couldn’t move, and the river essentially water-boarded you to death.
After the video, clipboards and legal forms were passed around to be signed, releasing the YMCA from all liability. The dads looked around in unease: Are we sure we want to do this?
At the entry point, we met our guide, Mark, one of the most placid, Zen-like people I’d ever encountered. The three days of rain had turned the normally tranquil French Broad river into a raging deluge.
As Mark calmly addressed our group, the river thundered behind him; white spray erupted from boulders in mid-stream. All I could think of was foot entrapment and how were they gonna get me loose for the funeral? Judging by their expressions, the other dads were having similar thoughts. We boarded our rafts; I made sure I picked the one with Mark.
The first mile or two was beautiful. The river widened and we gently floated along, enjoying the spring mountains of western North Carolina.

Everything had the light green tint of mid-spring, new leaves coming out after a season of rest. The mountain laurel and rhododendrons were in bloom and the pink and white blossoms ran from the summits down to the river’s edge.
The sun came out and warmed us; not far from us was the highest peak in the eastern continental United States, Mount Mitchell. At 6,683 ft (2,037 meters), it presided over the Appalachian mountains and the eastern continental divide. We were surrounded by craggy summits almost as high. It was beautiful, inspiring.
Fifteen minutes later, Mark tightened his life preserver and adjusted his helmet. I looked ahead to where he was looking and gulped. The rived narrowed again and I could see massive boulders and more white spray. Mark raised his voice just a bit and calmly told everyone to get ready.

I wasn’t sure what to expect, but a feeling of absolute helplessness gripped me. For the next two miles or so, I wouldn’t say we floated; it was more like going over a slightly flatter version of Niagara Falls. I was glad I was in the raft with Mark. He expertly used his oar to move us through raging passages between boulders, over falls, keeping us pointing forward. I saw other tribe members with less experienced guides swirling round and round in whirlpools behind boulders.
After a break for lunch…to let the kids jump off some two-story boulders into the river and the obligatory pictures…we resumed. The second half seemed even rougher than the first. I was horrified to see a raft with some of our tribe members capsize; their bobbing heads went over a waterfall. I hoped they remembered their foot entrapment lesson.

Thankfully, all 16 members of the Pouncing Puma tribe survived. We went back to Camp Rockmont and as we packed up, we regaled each other with war stories. We left feeling tired, fortunate…and complete, somehow. Sorta like Tom Cruise in “Jerry Maguire.”

It was only a three-hour trip from the highlands of the Appalachians to the Piedmont region of Raleigh where we live. Kari and I swung in, grabbed our beach gear, and 15 minutes later our family was heading down I-40 towards Carolina Beach, NC. From our home, it’s a two hour trip.

Fortunately for me, it was a rising low tide and a nice day with offshore winds. I couldn’t wait. As soon as we we lugged in the groceries, I grabbed my board and was soon out in the line-up, conversing with some surf buddies.
After several hours, the tides had risen so that no rideable waves were breaking. I didn’t care. I was happy to sit in the now-empty lineup as the western skies turned from golden to rose and consider all that had happened in the previous 24 hours: Camping; a hair-raising ride; a five-hour dash from the mountains to the sea; catching waves; and now watching the moon come up the eastern sky.


Someday I hope to hike from the Appalachians to the Atlantic on North Carolina’s Mountain to the Sea Trail.
But until then, I’ll be contented to wander around mountain streams and fish; or surf or simply sit on the beach under an umbrella with a cold one.
And realize it ain’t bad livin’.
© My little corner of the world 2024
Photos all by the author with the exception of the spring mountains… that one’s from Bing images.
That sounds like an incredible experience, repeating what you did as a child with your father … with you as the father now. Despite the frightening but necessary safety instructions you came through, and I’m sure you’ll only remember the good parts. That certainly is good living! 😎
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Thanks, Laura! Yeah, I kept my Native American name from my childhood and all three of my girls went through it with me and picked their own. Fantastic memories…I can’t recommend it enough. Thanks for reading and commenting 😎
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You’re welcome. It sounds wonderful, although I wouldn’t have the courage! 😂
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Beautiful post…creating new memories! 🤗
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Thanks, Sara! Yes, I have so many memories… it’s a great program. Thanks for reading and commenting! 😎
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My pleasure, Darryl! 😁😎
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Loved this, and the photos were awesome!! 🤩 Love both the mountains and the sea! Those flowers atop the mountain are so pretty 🌷 Looked like the whitewater rafting was fun despite it being a bit scary 😎
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Hi, Laura! Thanks for reading and commenting. It was SO much fun. Once we were in the rapids, there was nothing we could really do, so I stopped worrying about foot entrapment, lol, and just enjoyed the ride. The mountains really are beautiful…driving along the blue ridge parkway with the fall colors is spectacular. Enjoy your weekend, my friend! 😎❤️
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love this story-a true life adventure. ❤️❤️
Carol and Dick
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Thanks, Carol! My dad and I did it, and I have those memories… and now I have memories with my three kids. Thanks for reading and commenting! 😎
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that picture of the appalachian spring is absolutely stunning and the way I remembered my experience to be. i’d say in spring, mountain living is unbeatable! Mike
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Thanks, Michael! Appreciate you reading and commenting 😎 There’s a blogger I recently discovered… think his name is Eli Travels…and he chronicles his experience of walking all 2000+ miles of the Appalachian Trail. Wow, what an experience. I think you might like it 🙂👍
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sure thing Darryl – my pleasure! i’ll look into Eli’s blog. but looking forward to your next post! Mike
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I agree, simply stunning! Crank up some blue grass music!! 🎻🪕
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I’m sorry, somehow your comment ended up in the spam folder… Good old WordPress! 😑
Agree that some bluegrass music would be the perfect complement. Thanks so much for reading and leaving a comment! 😎
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Wow, what an amazing story. I really enjoyed reading about your trip to Black Mountain and the white-water rafting. It sounded like quite the adventure. The whole ‘It ain’t bad livin’ feeling’ really stuck with me too. It’s those special moments, big or small, that make life so great.
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Willie, I always love your comments… you’re right, it’s the combined moments, big and small, that make our lives. I’ve had some great conversations with God while sitting on my board…I see his glory reflected in both the mountains and the sea. Blessings to you, brother… Hope you have a great weekend 😎❤️
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God Bless You, today and always.
In case I miss it, Happy and Blessed Thanksgiving
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It was great to experience this vicariously through your words, Darryl. Memories to last a lifetime made for you and your daughter. Thanks for taking us along.
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Thanks, Terry! Yes, it was quite the adventure… but once I got used to the chaos of these booming sprays against boulders the size of trucks, I just settled down and enjoyed it. Thanks for reading and commenting 😎❤️
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What beautiful memories as child and dad! The pictures that went with it were gorgeous!!
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Thanks, Leigh Anne! Yeah, those were some great days… went through it with all three of my kids, kept my Native American name from when I was a kid… so many great memories. Thanks much for reading and commenting! 😎
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Such an amazing adventure! I loved how vividly you described the rapids and the peaceful beauty of the mountains. It’s so special that you’re creating memories with your kids like the ones you had as a child.
And the photo of the mountains- AMAZING! Truly, ‘it ain’t bad livin’!
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Hahaaha, yeah, it really ain’t! 😎 Even though the rafting was pretty wild, my daughter (you can see her fist raised…yah hooo!) and I still talk about it. Another time we went zip lining… they took us up this mountain in a golf cart and we climbed up the first tree about 30 feet… grab the handle and whizzzz you’re flying above everything for a several hundred feet to the next platform. That was also a blast. Thanks for reading and commenting 😎❤️
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Incredible! I keep imagining what that felt like for your daughter (and read now, all of your kids). Amazing dad. 🙂
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Awww! Thanks, Stephanie. I loved those days…they go by so fast and sitting around a campfire with our kids, telling stories as the flames crackle and pop and the embers drift upwards…I’ll never forget it. The official greeting was “How how!” One time we were coming home from somewhere and I stopped to get gas. I still had my Native American vest with all my patches on. I hear “How how!” from the guy at the next pump… he’s grinning and giving me the thumbs up 😂 Ah, another member of NC’s Arapahoe Nation 😎 Thanks again for the kind words ❤️
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Lovely. That’s just really something! It’s been so long since I’ve lingered in front of a campfire. That experience should be mandatory somehow. 🙂
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That sounds like a wonderful experience. It’s great that you experienced it with your father and passed on the same experience to your kids too. Beautiful pictures, especially the one of spring time in the mountains. Wow, that safely video was pretty scary indeed. That photo of river rafting looks pretty intimidating too. I’m glad that you guys picked the one with Mark in it. He looks very Zen even in that pic! I’m glad that all the members of the Pouncing Puma tribe survived. It ain’t a bad living at all.
I once had an opportunity to do river rafting but one look at the gushing river made me back out of it 😂 Some of my friends who were adventurous enough to do did end up getting capsized, but they were not harmed luckily.
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Shweta, thanks for reading and the comment. I’m glad your friends didn’t suffer the dreaded foot entrapment 😂 Yeah, Mark was remarkably calm even when we were going over falls. And yes, it was nice to have done it as a kid with my dad, and then as a dad with all three of my kids and seen it from that perspective. Thanks again for the kind words 😎❤️
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I’m so glad that they didn’t suffer the foot entrapment too! I wish I could be as Zen as Mark! You’re most welcome.
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I was once thrown completely out of a raft, to find that my foot had twisted in the handhold rope running around the top of the raft, and I was hanging head downward with no way in the world to right myself against the rushing current. Quite the moment.
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Wow! That must have been terrifying! Yeah, you can’t fight that current… I’m glad you somehow got free 😎🙏
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I was never so happy to be grabbed up by my friends!
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Ohh that must have been terrifying. I’m glad that you had help to escape from that!
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Me too! 😂
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Beautiful, interesting story and beautiful pictures..
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Matea, I’m glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for reading and the kind words 😎❤️
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it was really challenging to read because it’s quite long, but something made me keep reading because it was interesting, a little scary what could happen on rafting. Were you scared for your daughter? What a stupid question, of course you were. I’m sure of that. Those moments are the most memorable and come closer with Your daughter I’m sure that you and your daughter are closer than ever since that day. She will remember that for the rest of her life. Thank you for your beautiful story Darryl again..
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Matea, thanks for reading. I know my stories are a bit long but I don’t know how to shorten them without cutting out something essential that adds dimension to it 😎 Yes, I was concerned for my daughter, all the dads were, but we were up there and the bus had gone… so we said a prayer and I made sure I got the raft with Zen guide Mark. And yes, my daughter and I still laugh about it… it was really scary but once we got over that and just trusted in God to get us through, it was soooo much fun! 😎👍
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Darryl , thanks for the answer. Your stories are interesting and do not lose their meaning, that’s the only important thing in writing. You managed to relive your most exciting memories through writing.
You honestly know how to convey your every challenge, experience to the reader. 🙂🙃
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No arguments there 😎 Carolina Beach is a small town and pretty far from city lights. The stars on the beach at night are unbelievable. Thanks for reading and commenting 😎
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The story is inspiring, fun and emotional despite the risks. Thank you for sharing. Good luck and have a nice day
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Thanks, Noga! I appreciate you reading and commenting. I’m glad you liked it 😎
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🙏🏻🌹🌹Thank you very much
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Zen guide Mark (Hilarious) !!!!!
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Sirius, thanks for reading and commenting…unfortunately, I was trying to respond to your other very kind comment and my finger accidentally barely brushed the delete button… nooooo….I looked in comments/trashed and it wasn’t there. Looked elsewhere, but it disappeared into a WP black hole. But thanks for taking the time to write… re: this comment, yeah, Mark was the chillest dude ever…never saw him fazed even when the raft was bent in two going over falls… what great guy😎👍
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I see no Zen there either (lol) … I must know his secrets 😉 !!!
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Ugh! Blahst this stupid WP!! Sorry, geez 😑
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That is such a memorable experience and adventure.
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Yes, it was. We had a great tribe, everybody got along so well. We started when they were six and most of us stuck it out until they were 15-16. Thanks for reading and commenting 😎
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That’s wonderful. Your girls have memories and learned to assimilate other cultures. I wish we have something similar here.
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Cool!
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Thanks! Appreciate you reading and commenting 😎
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I prefer the mountains, so of course we live like three miles from the beach. 😁 Of course we do have mountains nearby (this is Southern California after all) but we don’t get up to them very often …
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James, thanks much for reading and commenting! CA mountains are awesome! I’ve driven Route 66 from Santa Monica through Needles and then further… desert type area/mountains… Yosemite and those mountains… and the Northern Cascades, Mount Shasta and others. Breathtaking scenery. 😎👍
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SoCal is so beautiful…the Pacific is so much different than the Atlantic. I’ve been there several times and one of my fav things is taking the PCH up to San Fran. Thanks for reading snd commenting! 😎
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Good experience! I love mountains and hilly areas because of its natural beauty and coldness
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Priti, thanks for reading and the comment. I hope you have a chance to visit one day. Up around Boone, NC, it’s a big ski area. Lots of snow, lots of places to stay. It’s beautiful in winter 😎❤️
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Wow, what an exciting experience. Although I think I would be too scared to really enjoy something like that.
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Pooja, thx much for reading and commenting. Once I got over my fear of the dreaded foot entrapment and thought oh, wth, I really enjoyed it 😎
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That’s great, I’m glad you could let of the fear and enjoy the experience.
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Thanks! Glad you enjoyed it 😎
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A few thoughts. Your dad’s phrase is perfect. I think I’m going to borrow it if you don’t mind. So cool that you went white water rafting with your daughter. The two of you will always remember that wonderful memory. And lastly, I’ve never been to the Appalachians. Looks amazing!
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Thanks for reading and the comments. The phrase is yours to use 😂 And yeah, it was a fun experience and the Appalachians are beautiful, esp in the Fall 😎 Hope you’re able to visit one day.
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I’ve read about the Appalachian trail. Maybe one day I can experience it!
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GenXer, I found this guy’s blog… very cool… he chronicles his 2000 mile hike along the AT… I just found it, read the first episode, really interesting. Thought you might enjoy it, too: https://eliwanders.wordpress.com/
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Thanks! I’ll check it out. Through hiking seems so cool… where to find the time, though.
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Not sure if my last commented posted or not (I was interrupted mid thought) So I’ll repost: I S Cal we talk about skiing in the morning at a local mountain and splashing in the ocean in the afternoon. I never appreciated that the East Coast offers similar opportunities. I’m glad you and your family have adventurous spirits! We’re strong believers in creating memories with our kids, no matter their age.
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Yes, North Carolina is a cool place to live. Up around Boone, they have a lot of skiing. Another fun thing to do is take the ferry… about a 20 minute ride… Across the mouth of the Cape Fear River to Southport, a very picturesque little town, where they filmed several movies. We’ve made a lot of memories here as a family.😎🙏
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What a wonderful experience!
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Thanks for reading and commenting! It really was and everybody in our tribe got along so well. We had a lot more adventures and didn’t really break up until the girls were 15 or so. I can’t recommend the program highly enough 😎❤️
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Wow, This sounds like such a fun, and tiring day lol.
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Audrey, thanks for reading and commenting! Yes, it was a lot. Luckily my wife had the kids and the car all packed up and ready to go… so it wasn’t too bad. The whitewater rafting would have been a blast had it not been quite so wild 😎😂
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I did… left a few comments. Interesting! 😎
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Hi Tim, I apologize for the long delay… This (and many other comments) were in my spam folder for some reason… I just now found them. Thanks for reading and the compliment…appreciated 😎
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Jean, thanks much! Appreciate you reading and commenting 😎
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